Wednesday wisdom: Aldous Huxley


So many times I have felt like a passenger in my own life. Like someone else was in charge of the driving, and I was a hapless victim, waiting to find out where we are going and feeling ambivalent about it all. I have started to realise recently that I may not be able to influence the big things in life like health issues, money issues, etc, but I actually do have some small amount of control in certain areas of my life, and it’s on those areas that I am now going to focus  🙂

Quote of the day: 7th February 2016

The happiest people don’t necessarily have the best of everything but they make the most of everything.

I have been guilty of “all or nothing” thinking. Throughout my life I have been of the opinion, ‘if everything isn’t 100% happy in my world, then nothing is happy in my world’. This kind of thinking is so destructive and leaves you with a false sense of what your life actually is like right now.

Recently, our life has been negative in so many ways, but I have had an epiphany this weekend, and much like Howard Beale’s character in the film Network (1976) reminds us, I am reminding myself (and anyone else who needs reminding),

“I’m a human being, god-dammit! My life has value!”

Matt Adams and Someone you Love

I recently found out about Matt Adams and the Someone you Love project. Their About Me says: ‘Someone you Love is a three part video and photo series that aims to brings New Yorkers together by engaging them in positive activities in the unexpected places.’

The first video I saw was Write Someone You Love where Matt encouraged people to send postcards to people they love and the take-up was huge! At the end of the day, Matt took the postcards home, put stamps on each one and posted them in the mailbox for everyone. Such a lovely idea, and after I’d first seen this video, I hand made cards for my mum and grandparents, and they loved them so much. I would definitely do this again, as I enjoy crafting anyway, but making people smile is so worth it.

As well as the Write Someone You Love videos, there are also Call Someone You Love and Kiss Someone You Love.

The links above take you to the webpages so that you can see all of the photos from the day, but you can take a look at the videos below!


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It feels both amazing and humbling to be alive during such a historic time as we are in now. I am, of course, referring to the fact that the US Supreme Court ruled by a 5-to-4 vote on Friday that the Constitution guarantees a right to same-sex marriage. This is something that has been a long time coming and it’s such a shame that so many loving couples have had to wait for so long to be granted the same benefits that straight couples are afforded.

As a pansexual woman, I’ve been the subject of abuse just for being attracted to both sexes, but as my long-term relationships have all been with men, I haven’t had the abuse that I would have received for being in relationships with women. As long as two people are happy, I have never understood why it is the business of anyone else’s.

My husband, Michael, is currently undergoing transition to become a woman, and we are aware that we are going to face all kinds of abuse and have to deal with people with different beliefs to us with regards to trans issues. It’s great to have role models in the public eye such as Laverne Cox and Caitlyn Jenner, and I hope that more people who identify as having gender dysphoria feel more empowered to seek the support that they need to enable them to move their lives forward and finally be able to be happy.

I’ve loved reading all of the #LoveWins articles online, but I really loved this one: Love wins: America celebrates same-sex marriage ruling – in pictures so much. You don’t need words to see how much the law changing means to people, and their happiness is truly deserved. They are proof that love wins.

A great way to recycle your Halloween pumpkin

I know that Halloween has long passed now and that Christmas is homing into view, but I figured it was still worth sharing this from Twitter. I hadn’t really thought about how to recycle my Halloween pumpkin, (though to be fair this year mine went to a cubs, beavers and scouts Halloween party so I’ve no idea where it ended up!) but next year I will definitely recycle it by making it into a bird feeder 🙂